I have had a couple of blogworthy rants stewing around inside of me for the past week. That's probably one reason I have avoided blogging. When I rant, it takes time. Lots of time. And I haven't had the kind of time I need to write the well constructed rants that I want to construct.
But - I need to get some of this out of my system. So here are a few mini-mini-mini-rants in the form of questions, for all of us to ponder. You, my dear readers, both male & female, are more than welcome to comment and discuss in the comments of My blog. I welcome your input.
* Why do people in the BDSM lifestyle want to continously comment and define for other people how this lifestyle should be lived, how fetishes should be put into practice or what makes a woman a “REAL” femdom?
* Why do people who are NOT EVEN IN the BDSM lifestyle want to contiuously comment and define for other people how fetishes should be put into practice or what makes a woman a “REAL” femdom?
* Why are some women so preoccupied with what other women are doing or saying in this “business” - whether it be NIteflirt, phonesex, the online Financial Domination world or pro-dommes?
* Why do so many want to talk about male submissives like they are juveniles who need a road map to avoid the pitfalls of “online domination”? Or like they are impressionable little flowers who will have their definition of BDSM & submission “corrupted” by evil, incompetent femdom and poseur financial dommes?
When it comes to malesubs online or on Niteflirt, in most cases we are talking about -
a.) middle-aged men who have known of their submissive tendencies since they hit puberty, sometimes before. Many of this group have been practicing whatever activities they partake in for DECADES and are AS well versed if not MORE well versed in “real” BDSM than the entire group of women who want to defend & protect them. They are quite comfortable with who they are and what they fantasize about and what they actually DO in an online realm and they are quite capable of discerning reality from fantasy without the help of these self appointed “Supreme Protectresses” who in reality are just overly competitive with the women who do what they can't do or won't dare to do.
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b.) grown men, young, old and middle-aged, for whom BDSM remains a fantasy but one which they enjoy exploring in a phone or online setting. Again, these are GROWN MEN who are not really gonna be led down any garden path that they don't want to go down. To the defenders and protectors: Isn't rather insulting to these GROWN MEN to assume they are stupid enough to swallow whole all the fantasy text that they might read on a website? Isn't it insulting to constantly assume that these men can't draw a line between what's fantasy and what's reality and who is genuine and who isn't? That they are so naive, so stupid or so weak that YOU have appoint yourself to draw the line for them?
I have met and talked with young submissives of college age who are so sure of who they are and what their limits are, that I even laugh at the thought they THEY could be misled, fooled or talked into activities that they know would hurt them.
Last time I looked, 18 was the age of consent in most US states. That means that a man or woman of legal age is deemed to have sense enough to say YES to an activity that they feel they'd like to engage in and NO to an activity that they would not like to engage in.
When it comes to online BDSM or financial domination activities I have to assume that the law of supply and demand applies. The “supply” (of dommes you don't like) exists because the “demand” (the subs who partake) is there. Simple.
As a few wise women have said in the past - Just do you.
K? rant off for now.
Time to go do me.
Ciao!
